Divorce is undoubtedly one of the most difficult and painful experiences in a person’s lifetime. The amount of emotional stress, following the divorce can be huge and hard to understand, leaving even the most stable people feeling depressed and hopeless. The intensity of raw pain gets even worse when there are children involved. In spite of all the pain involved in a divorce, it is difficult to understand why celebrities get divorced so easily, some even breaking world records in the shortest time their marriages lasted. With their steamy scandals and litigious antics, it is considered a milestone for a celebrity couple to celebrate their 5th marriage anniversary.
Case in point: Sinead O’Connor, a popular singer filed for divorce just after 16 days in marriage, even though she later changed her mind; Kim Kardashian’s marriage with Kris Humphries lasted for just 72 days, while Katy Perry’s marriage to comedian Russell Brand ended after just 2 months. The most ugly celebrity breakup ever was in 2005 between Hollywood stars, Denise Richards and Charlie Sheen, filed after just 3 years of marital bliss on allegations of Sheen’s abusiveness, unfaithfulness and addiction to pornography. The divorce was finally concluded in 2006.
Pastor Reydon Stanford, a pastoral counselor for many years, came to the conclusion that many marriages fail because of one simple reason -ignorance. He thinks that many people only go to school to read, write and calculate, but do not know “how” to be married, leave alone “how” to be happily married. But this does not answer the question why celebrities get divorced so easily. Is it that they consider themselves superhuman people, or that spend days, even months on the road shooting, or that during their escapades, celebrities get to meet a seemingly endless array of hot options and suitors, making it difficult for them to focus on their marriages?
May be the public is just too harsh in judging the rich and famous, forgetting that celebrities are just normal people prone to making mistakes like any of us. But the main reason why celebrities get divorced so easily is that they get married for all the wrong reasons; after getting enticed and falling over heels for the other partner, when it is just mere infatuation, a case very common in Hollywood.
Infatuation is not love, as the case of Kid Rock and Pamela Anderson best illustrates. After taking their vows from different locations while on vacation, in what turned out to be a tumultuous wedding of some kind, Pamela, filed for divorce after just a few months, not forgetting that she had previously broken off her engagement with him. She was quoted as saying that no one should get married on a vacation, perhaps implying that she had ill advised motives in marrying the rocker in the first place.
By the nature of their job, actors, models, singers, directors, even some writers travel a lot; and knowing how the film industry works, this might just be the reason why they lack time for their families. Unlike in the past when film and movie makers flocked Hollywood mainly on account of its abundant sunshine, beautiful people and sandy beaches, California is losing out to new locations like the island of Vancouver (mainly because of the beautiful coastline), London and Wellington, New Zealand. Among the productions filming in Vancouver include: Holiday Hiatus, Arrow’s Flash Dance, started December 29th, Men of Letters, started December 28th; among many others. The World of Warcraft mega-movie adaption is expected to start filming on January 20th 2014. ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ Movie is set to begin filming in Vancouver and to hit the screens early 2015.
If one partner is a celebrity and the other is not, perhaps they can travel together, but still one partner may find it too tiring, especially with kids involved. If one partner travels a lot, the other one is deprived of sex and lacks the family emotional support that the other person provides. Even when both celebrities are married, they both have separate schedules; one is filming in Vancouver and the other is in New Zealand, or one has a concert in Paris and the other is promoting their movie in California. Adding this to the general notion that celebrities find it effortless to marry and equally effortless to divorce, makes breaking up nothing of an issue.
It is an obvious fact that celebrities have loads of money and fame; no wonder fans crazily adore them like hell. The problem is in their jobs: unlike other professions, actors get to kiss people in movies; singers get to dance with dancers on the stage. Such physical contacts can increase little crushes or create a crush. How do you explain someone falling in love moments after acting with the other person in a movie or TV series! First they do not know each other and the relationship has not grown, and the next thing you hear are wedding bells! No wonder the belief that you succeed only where you have put your time and effort. Because they have not spent good time learning about their suitors, nor are they prepared for married life and its challenges, it will obviously fail.
One very good reason why celebrities get divorced so easily is because greater temptation to cheat; plus the opportunity is always there. An actor is away filming in Vancouver for several months, and the spouse hundreds of miles away. The other characters are very attractive, and it doesn’t help when the roles are nearly or wholly body explicit. Someone who has not seen intimacy for several months will be tempted to seek the affection of their co-worker and a steamy relationship develops.
Negative media publicity and unethical reporting does not help either. Celebrities live under a microscope, always followed by the media. Steamy romances among Hollywood stars makes for good headlines and sells. One actor is caught hugging another actor celebrity of the opposite sex and the paparazzi send the shots or video viral. This ends up causing tension and conflict for the married celebrities.
It is very easy to think that the grass is greener on the other side and so you want to jump. But even the best and strongest relationships have their struggles. With these added pressures and challenges, it easy to see why celebrities get divorced so easily.